Out-of-the-box ideas to bring out the romantic inside of you!
I find myself very lucky in the sense my parents are the BEST role-models when it comes to marriage. My parents will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary next year and a big celebration is needed! My parents taught my siblings and me to always put your marriage first, marry for love and NO other reason, stay on one another’s team, and keep the passion alive. Trust me when I say, they worked at their marriage and didn’t shield us from any of the hardships. Growing up, I witnessed 2 separations, arguments and disagreements, making money to losing jobs, and they still have one of the most passionate marriages I know. Thank you, Mom & Dad, for showing me love isn’t always easy but working on your marriage will always bring benefits.
Whether or not you celebrate Valentine’s Day is your choice, but I don’t think there is anything wrong with putting a little more effort into your relationship for one month out of the year.
Here are 25 ideas to keep that spark alive:
1. In the midst of talking about how your days went or the chores that need to be done, interrupt and say “I have something important to tell you. I love you and here’s why” Then, list 5 things (or more) that you really appreciate about your partner. Finish with a kiss and say, “Ok, so you were talking about the dish washer…”
2. For no reason buy all the makings and prepare their favorite dinner.
3. Write a small “I love you” on the mirror or shower door when steamy.
4. Hire a babysitter without the other knowing and take them out to lunch or dinner.
5. Mail a card to your spouses work address with 10 things you love about him/her.
6. Write a note for them to find later in the day – in their car, at their office, hidden in their laptop, etc.
7. Have a code word before you go out for the night. Every time you use that code word it will imply a naughty undertone (e.g. “I can’t wait to get you home!”).
8. Schedule the other person a spa treatment for no reason and tell them “I’ve got the kids tonight.”
9. Let them stay in bed for a morning to relax. Bring them breakfast.
10. Offer to help with a dreaded chore and make it a fun activity for the 2 of you together.
11. Get the ingredients to make their favorite cocktail and have it ready when they get home.
12. For her, from him: Before a trip somewhere (or just for no reason), buy her a little nightgown or pajamas that are both comfortable and cute. Girls can always use more cute/functional sleepwear, and it’s something we rarely take the time to buy for ourselves.
13. For him, from her: Plan an activity-based date. Research shows that men are better at communicating side by side rather than face to face. By planning an activity-based date, you might get into a deeper convo.
14. Do some research on something you know is their favorite hobby. Next time this topic gets brought up, it will mean a lot you made the effort to learn more about something they love.
15. Plan a date night in after the kids are in bed. Sometimes it’s tough – and expensive – to find a sitter, get ready, and leave your house for a night out together. Instead, make a simple dinner, buy a bottle of wine, and play a board game together with no phones, TV, or kids to distract you.
16. In the middle of the day send a text to your partner with a positive affirmation to let them know you are thinking of them and appreciating their favorite characteristic.
17. Keep a list of “10 things I love about you” and present it to them at random for a boost of confidence.
18. Make a big deal out of small victories. Did they land a deal at work? Did they overcome being shy in a work meeting and speak about an idea? Did they finish that 5 mile run? Did they accomplish getting to the grocery store with both kids in tow? Pop open a bottle of champagne to celebrate the small things.
19. Schedule in cuddle time. Some people do this to keep their sex life alive, why not do this for intimacy and physical touch?
20. If you’re out running an errand and know your partner is almost out of shaving gel, postage stamps, milk, etc. buy the small essential for them.
21. Record a love message on your partner’s phone. Set an alarm for a time when you’re not around them with a message saying “check your recorder app/voice recorder”.
22. Prepare the best bite on your dinner plate and offer it to the other.
23. Get up slightly earlier than your partner and prepare them a cup of coffee in bed.
24. Pack their lunch and leave a note inside.
25. Bring home flowers for no reason. This could be for either a man or a woman. I don’t know a house that doesn’t instantly feel warmer than when flowers are in the room.
You can be completely in-tune with your partner and still make some extra effort to keep that relationship spark. Remember that you were a couple before the kids came into the picture and you will be a couple when those kids leave the house. It’s important to remember that your spouse and their needs should come at top priority. *And I write this for my own accountability as well!
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