Attention! Calling all dads and partners… this one is for you!
I asked hundreds of women what they really want for Mother’s Day, I’m not kidding, hundreds. I asked my entire women’s community, and they were quite helpful and hungry to be celebrated. Let me give it to you straight: it was an overwhelming and astounding answer: “me time.” As ironic as this is, what we want is to not be a mother for one day. It’s not that we don’t love being a mom, take the job seriously, and want to avoid spending time with the kids. It’s that for one day – even one hour – we don’t want to do all the “things” that come with being a Mom. This list includes, but is not limited to, cooking, cleaning, setting up, chauffering, and planning. This means we would like you to plan the meals, make the meals, clean-up the meals, decide what activity you are going to do with the kids, do said activity, and repeat… all while I relax at the spa or in my bedroom. And after that, we can’t wait to spend time with everyone!
I know this sounds a little dramatic. The truth is that we all love our kiddos, that’s a given, but sometimes we need a moment to ourselves or adult time with other humans without thinking about the next thing that needs to be done for the family. And even more than that, sometimes when needs are met, we realize that we really only needed 10 minutes away. So let us miss them. Just for one day… even one hour. If you can’t make this happen on Sunday the 12th, plan it for mom on another day so she has something to look forward to. You don’t have to book the most expensive spa in town, it can simply be a hot bath at your own house, buying her a good book and giving her a moment to read, taking the children to the park while mom relaxes, letting her garden, cook, bake, etc… it’s letting her do what she loves to do without being interrupted.
Ladies, if you are reading this, it’s important to note that you must let yourself relax if given the opportunity! Often times when I get time away (luckily my husband is great at this), I feel the guilt of being away. I am constantly thinking about the next thing that needs to be done or another item on my check-list I should be doing. That’s not your husband’s fault, that is your fault. Let yourself enjoy the time away and stay in the moment because it won’t last forever.
And hubs, if you want another idea OR to get a little something in addition to some peace and quiet, here are a few thoughts. Ladies, don’t be shy in sending this list to your spouse:
Alternative Gift Ideas:
1. Check Off The Honey-Do-List:
Every woman has a mental check-list of things they want to get done. Whether it’s something that needs to be done now or a far-fetched idea for the house, do her a favor and check that “to-do” off her list. Bathroom need painting? Does the garage need to be cleaned out? Does the patio furniture need to be sanded? Get ‘er done! She will be thrilled.
2. At-Home Getaway:
Spa treatments are expensive and a lot of people don’t have the time or money to spend at a luxury spa. Instead, try your best to bring the serenity to your home as an alternative. Run her a bath, buy her favorite aromatherapy, pick a good beach read and gift it to her, pour her a glass of wine, etc. Anything that gives her some peace and quiet away from mother duties.
3. Of-the-Month Clubs:
There are so many to choose from! This is the gift that keeps on giving. Do some research and pick what you think she would like best. Here are a few ideas: Floral of the Month Club: Olive and Cocoa have beautiful arrangements they send to your door each month. Look into a Cheese Of The Month Club and buy some wine to go with it. There is also Date Night In a Box. This company packages together a date to enjoy without leaving the comfort of your home. What does your lady like to do and what does she love to eat? Chances are there is a club of the month you can join that she will enjoy the entire year!
4. Shopping Spree:
Does your lady take back a lot of the items you give her or does it feel like your gift gets put away never to be worn? Take the anxiety out of buying something she won’t use and allow her an afternoon alone to shop at her favorite store. This doesn’t have to be extreme or too expensive – there can be a budget – but know she will love every second.
Small Gift Ideas:
- A new set of pajamas, robe, or kimono.
- A bracelet (or another unique piece of jewelry) from your local store with handmade items.
- A summer set: a new bathing suit, sunglasses, sun hat, flip flops, or nice sunscreen. And again, a good beach read.
- Makeup brush set or new makeup. We always need this!
- New kitchen gadgets (some ideas here, here, or here).
And please help your children make a card or a homemade gift that she can keep as her new favorite keepsake. Lots of ideas can be found here.
Happy Mother’s Day to all you fabulous ladies out there!